Have you ever felt that you missed out on something important because you couldn’t take the plunge and go for it? I’m sure you are probably thinking, how stupid who doesn’t that’s life! does it have to be, it may be good to be cautious particularly when we are moving into something, or somewhere that is unknown to us but it seems to me that in the current chaotic times we are living through we do this because there is a lack of holding at all levels.
Whoever greets, at the moment, and in whatever context, the topic will invariably touch on the chaos and instability of the world often making remarks, such as, nothing for it just have to go on! Who would set out on a journey without knowing how to get there, or employing some device to tell us where to go,but living life and maturing into meaning and purpose is somewhat different, each stage in life experience has been traditionally navigated with support. Looked at simply we grow up, if fortunate enough to have a ‘good enough family’ within that families love and guidance, and eventually as adults begin to navigate life for ourselves.
In or within ‘good enough families’ we are being held whilst we mature in mind and body, the family has our back and when stepping out on our own we can return there for love advice and guidance when we need to, but the threads and ropes of such things as families and then when we extend ourselves into or connections and friends where is the help when the holding of the other is also threatened?
Pack animals have ways of supporting and signalling to each other creating a united front for living with the dangers from predators and sometimes lack of food but as the world has become increasingly chaotic their habits and ways of being have been threatened more and more.
Life in today’s fast world is like skating on thin ice eventually it cracks. I call for help, I receive it, share it, in theory it gets passed on but what if the other has collapsed due to the thin ice? Truth is we need to be able to trust our environment and holding mechanisms to feel able to live a healthy and purposeful life.
Society has cracked and become unsteady at all levels, and in addition the powers which remain seem involved in constant change thus creating more stress on a regressed and broken society.
Such a society without holding and grounding becomes more distrustful of each other in everyday relationships, and also of the struggling and broken institutions, if you look you will see this easily, and it is in the acknowledgement of the situation that there is hope for a return to more normal living.It begins with trust we need to build trust individually.
While we remain in chaos we are missing out on healthy and purposeful living so—-
LET’S BEGIN!
aoibheann thoughtful reflections 