Sneaky is out and about, he thinks no one knows because he is furtive and slippy and slips in and out and round and about when no one is looking. AUH you say he lives in one of those slummy areas down town, but he doesn’t does he? He’s around everywhere, in fact if you try to image him in your imagination you can see him in different ways and in different clothes, he/she is the one who is not genuine, who denies he/she has stolen anything etc etc. He/she is the one who is often dressed very well and is constantly smiling oh oh oh!
Thinking of sneaky brings to mind other words such as, furtive, slippery, liar to name but a few. Sneaky is a friend of the saboteur and all their business is underhand and abusive, when discovered it is important to challenge them and be very straight with them, and its possible they will begin to behave and fall into line.
Have you ever been in a meeting, maybe presenting your work,, which can be very anxiety producing, and, as you seek for a spot to place your eyes you notice someone smiling and it does’t seem like there is anything funny, you continue, but feel unsettled and angry, and are afterwards. not surprised to hear your suggestions have been blocked. Sneak has been involved in this, but the wonderful thing is that sneak is good at behaving stupidly, he/she hasn’t grasped that he/she can be seen through , they are as transparent as clean glass.
When walking in recovery we need to be very honest with ourselves we will never be perfect but we can learn to live in a more healthy way by stopping and considering what is going on with us is one thing, and by being honest in acknowledging how we are to ourselves and others. It is such a human thing to want to meet standards, to feel we can’t be a nuisance to our friends and others, and to see ourselves as guilty when we fail in our estimation of what we should be doing, or what we should be like.
Could, should, and ought are quite horrible stressful words which need to have a lesser space in our lives at the moment given that we are, and have been so stressed with the pandemic, the climate changes, and the continuing inflation, the stress on a daily basis of trying to stretch the food shop out and finding that fro Friday to Monday is more like a week than a couple of days, one stands at the fridge and behold it is empty or nearly so……
The saboteur and the sneak aspects of our personality have a field day with the above commanding type words making us out to have failed. Let’s say NO to them and instead stop and consider what is happening in the moment, around us, and inside us we can act as prospectors seeking to glean what is new in our emergence into a world of after effects not all known as yet, and may not ever be known in full, the effects of pandemic including horrendous loss, living with and in fear, climate change, unprecedented catastrophic events and absolute terror.
Standing in the moment to catch a new feeling whether negative or positive may be a key to emergence and acceptance of this chaotic world of imbalance. Having charted anything new move on at your own pace or rest and meditate if you need to. The sneak and the saboteur need to be challenged stop and speak to them tell them you love them but their beef is faulty, and you will not live by impossible commands.
The sneak and saboteur are destroyers of peace they exist out in the world outside and also within each of us. They exist in all walks of life when you identify them tell them and yourself you know them and what they are up to and keep walking in your recovery frame.
The sneak lives in a nasty lying space be honest if you never fell down, how would you learn how to get up?
STAND FIRM NO SNEAKING!